Getting to know each other #3 / Year end

Thank you PlainT (Queering the Nerd) for choosing me for the chain-style Very Inspiring Blog Award!

I’m going to move it along by selecting a bunch of blogs I’ve been enjoying lately.  If I chose your blog, and you’d like to make a post following all the rules of the award, they can be found in PlainT’s post, here:
The rules of this award are…

Then I’m going to write a few facts about myself, sort of in the vein of a year end summary.  I made a similar post last year; it is here:
This year felt different… in a good way

These community-driven awards are super important because it’s a chance for blog writers to connect with different blogs they might not know about yet.  I enjoy seeking out new blogs regularly, and I find myself feeling invested in the lives of other blog writers.  Sometimes I get bummed when a blog starts off really strong and then disappears!  Here’s to the coming year, and strengthening this online community through mutual support and inspired blog writing!

A few blogs to check out (some are mainstays, some are more sporadically written than others, some are brand new)!

John’s Thoughts
Changing Faces
Tea With Ess
Gender Drift
Casbalog
Queer Asterisk
Tangled Web
ftmfml
Dawn to Don
Musical Transparent
A Yellow Crayon
2 Women to 2 Men

Next up, here are some things about me / some things I did and felt this year:

– Overall, it was a pretty rough year for me.  I continued to settle into a new and improved place with hormone therapy and talk therapy, but I’m finding I still have a LONG way to go until I really am where I see myself.  I want to be out as non-binary in all areas of my life.  I want to go by a different name.  I want all the people who know me to use male pronouns in reference to me, not just most of the people…  I might want top surgery…

– I felt a growing closeness with my partner, newer levels of comfort and ease, which is great.  At the same time, she kinda had to put up with a lot from me.  Lots of bouts of crying.  Lots of insecurity-fueled jags.  I had a rough summer.  And fall.  And just in general, lately…

– We celebrated our having-gotten-married (this occurred in November 2013) over the summer with friends and family!

– We went on some fun trips.  To Massachusetts and Maine, to Toronto, To Philadelphia for the Philly Trans-Health Conference.

– We attended a foraging workshop with some friends, which was totally fun!  We learned about edible plants you can find in our region, and how to prepare them into meal-like food items, over an open fire in the middle of the woods.  We did that – everyone helped cook this food we’d found, and then we all ate it!

– Outdoors times were probably some of my favorite times this year.  Just going for a hike or going to a lake.  My partner and I got snowshoes recently, so we can keep getting out there, even throughout the winter.

– My pet rabbit passed away, and my co-worker retired.  These have both felt like HUGE losses.  Work has been tough and more drama-ful than need be, lately.

– I worked on 3 submissions for anthologies this year!  One is already published, and two have been accepted and are in the works, the editing stages…  This feels AWESOME!

– I got involved in a local group that is putting a new radio station out into the airwaves.  Currently I’m helping out a lot with their facebook page, and within the coming year, I will be a weekly radio DJ!

That was, more or less, what 2014 looked like for me.


Getting to know each other #2

A couple of chain-style blogging awards are currently circulating, and I’m gonna go ahead and take part!  Thank you to Something Queer To Read, Tangled Web, and Because I’m Fabulous for including me!  These community driven awards are super important because they help us connect to more blogs we might not yet know about, and they allow blog writers to step outside of their usual modes and share a little bit more about themselves.

So, adapted “rules” for the Lovely / Very Inspiring Blog award:

– Link to and thank the blog writer(s) who included you.

– Write a few facts about yourself.  Maybe 4, maybe 7, maybe 10…

– Move things forward by including a few blog writers you really enjoy.  Anywhere from 5 to 15.

– Make sure you let these blog writers know!

This time around, I’m going to point to (in no real order):
A Feminist Challenging Transphobia
butchcountry67
The Brighter Side of the Moon
Valprehension
Today I Am A Man
Captain Glitter Toes
Create Parity
Genderweird
Transcending Chaya

And finally, a couple of things you might not have known about me:

– I live 5 miles away from my parents.  I live 5,000 miles away from my brother.

– I love beverages of all different kinds:  especially coffee, tea, beer, fancy sodas, kombucha.  I like trying new types!  (I really should remember to drink more water.)

– When I was 17, I spent 3 weeks in a psychiatric hospital.  I know I’ve mentioned it before, and although I don’t highlight it often in my writing, this episode greatly shaped where I’m coming from and how I write about my experiences.

– I’ve been a vegetarian for about 12 years.  There was a brief foray into eating fish somewhere at the midway point.  That didn’t last long.  It felt weird.  From time to time, I think about re-introducing fish into my diet, but I just can’t seem to do it.

Until next time (Getting to know each other #3)…


Getting to know each other

Thank you to tsoi hawk and rimonim for including me in the Liebster Awards.  This award uses a chain-mail technique in order to connect more writers together and create an opportunity to get to know each other a little better.  Many of us write continuously, sometimes constantly about one or two topics, and we never really get a sense of who the author is!

I was stalling for a while about this post, because while I love the spirit of this award, I do not love the pressure and obligation to follow the rules and not break the chain!  I am a notorious chain breaker.  You wanted to send me a recipe/list of books/favorite quote/etc. and a list of 6 more people to forward my own recipe/books/quotes/etc. on to?  Bad choice; those people never saw anything about it!  But I figured, why not try this one, even if I don’t follow everything we’re supposed to do.

So, here’s a modified version, I guess.
Some blogs I’ve really been enjoying lately:

Apparently I Don’t Exist

milomorphosis

Amorphous Amphibian

FISTFELT

The Voice in the Closet

Because I’m Fabulous

Transdoctor

Sir Fallsalot

Two Lady Geeks

And a favorite blog, that, sadly, appears to now be an archive:
rainbowgenderpunk

If I linked to your blog, and you wanna follow all the rules, click here for more info about the Liebster Award.  If you don’t wanna do it at all, that’s OK too.

Some random facts about me:

– I know all of Tom Petty’s greatest hits by heart.  This is not indicative of my musical tastes.  I just had the cassette tape growing up.  (I do still love it.)
– What’s on my iPod right now:  albums by Bauhaus, Daft Punk, DJ Shadow, Maps, RJD2, Skinny Puppy, Sleigh Bells, The Roots, Wolf Parade.  This is slightly more indicative of my musical tastes.  I listen to my iPod every single work-day, for probably 4-6 hours.
– I’m going to hear back in a couple of weeks whether my proposal for a radio show will be accepted.  I’ll most likely be a radio DJ starting this fall!
– One of my favorite pastimes is brewing kombucha.
kombuchaIt is a delicious, healthy alternative to soda.  It is awesome!  You can buy it in stores, but it is $$$.  You can make it at home for super super cheap. It’s basically just black tea (or any tea, but black is best) and processed, white sugar.  Plus the weird flesh-colored disk called a Symbiotic Colony Of Bacteria and Yeast (SCOBY).  You have to acquire one of those.
– We have a pet dwarf rabbit named Grey Bunny.  She is 12 years old!bunny

 

 

That’s about all I got for right now.


Blog writing shows promise for… future blog writing

Just for fun, I decided to go back to an old online diary and see what I had written (if anything) ten years ago today.  And there was one dated 2/13/04!  At this time, I was a senior in college, I had no plans, and I was trying to rebuild my sense of self after a destructively devastating depressive episode.

I had been in a screenwriting class the previous semester, and had had some difficulty with the class and the professor.  We’d had a few miscommunications.  For example, I disclosed to him some of my struggles (such as issues with self-injury) in an attempt to get him to understand why I needed to take an incomplete, going to class and doing the work later.  As a result, he decided to show the movie Secretary for the class, letting me know somehow (I don’t remember how) that this was his way of connecting with me.  But actually, I felt mortified by this.

So what I wrote exactly ten years ago was this:

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[The professor} emailed me today, saying he had been reading my “blog,” [which he must have found by Googling his name] and in my head, I was like FUCK, WHAT SORT OF SHIT DID I SAY ABOUT HIM? Oh man. But it turns out I didn’t really say any shit about him, just wrote about a conversation the class had in which I was excluded from the female POV. And I was like, awesome! but in the journal, it sort of sounded like I felt sligted, because I call myself “other.” He didn’t realize I love “other,” so he wrote to me in the email that it is easy to recall times when one has been slighted, but one must also remember times when one’s unique humanity is recognized. (ex. showing Secretary in class.) So I just had to write back that I didn’t feel slighted – I was pleased, rather, to be excluded from being able to speak from a female’s POV. Yeah, I don’t know if this makes much sense, but, he wrote back saying thanks for the clarification, and he also said to keep writing.  “Your blog writing shows promise.”

Promise for what?
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Even though I was still a long way off from using the words non-binary, genderqueer, or trans* to describe myself (apparently preferring “other” haha), it’s awesome to see I was thinking about it and writing about it.

With this guy, it’ll be just my luck that he’ll find this post somehow and strike up a long-lost conversation with me, haha.  College was weird.